The concept of success remains a broad, complex, and very subjective one–all the more so when it comes to assessing one’s parenting skills. For example, I can define a successful parent as something you will consider completely unimportant. But even if we don’t agree with a certain definition of success, some of them still generate… Read More Redefining Success as a Parent: Raising a Child is Not a Competitive Sport
The now iconic poster that graced Fox Mulder’s basement office for all ten seasons has meant a lot of things to a lot of people in an array of different circumstances. Back in August 2008, I shared some thoughts of what it meant within the narrow context of alien life. As I reread that post,… Read More Luckier Than Fox Mulder: From Wanting to Believe to Believing
One of the things that bothers me to no end is how fathers are underappreciated. I won’t ever forget how, despite his exhaustion and the emotional toll of worrying about his wife and baby, no one took care of my husband during our baby’s birth. The most ironic part of this story is that because… Read More Helping My Husband (Not): How The Best Intentions Can Go Wrong
When I twisted my ankle back in 2008, I remember how a whole new world opened up to me right where I had been living for a number of years. On the one hand, I saw just how selfish, self-centered, and unaware people were, as they would rush by me and ignore the fact that… Read More Choosing to Turn Towards the Good: A Powerful, Empowering Choice
Every parent I know had a certain image of what life would be like with their children. And every parent I have talked to tell me the same thing: that life with their children is not all like what they thought it would be. What happens next is also really interesting and has got me… Read More Enjoying the Reality Instead of Grieving the Fantasy of Parenthood
While going through all the posts I have uploaded on this blog since it’s launch almost nine years ago, I came across this particular post from October 2008. It reminded me of the difficult few years during which I struggled between blogging about the things I passionately wanted to blog about and blogging about the… Read More Blogging about Passions or Passionately Blogging?
Speaking of guilt: I’m a very avid advice seeker. I mean, why not prevent things from happening by getting the advice to do just that, rather than fall into the same trap as others have? And so, right after we got married, my husband and I started reaching out to our generous and loving friends… Read More Dealing with Parent Guilt: Some of the Best Advice I Got
I wasn’t very good with titles back in 2008, and this post is solid proof of the lack of title-writing skills. The reflection though is still something that I constantly think about: the ever-present dichotomy the work of some artists and their personal lives. And in this case, think of “artist” in the broad sense… Read More An Artist’s Life And An Artist’s Art: How Coherent Should They Be?