I have mentioned before how insidious the negative forces of society can be, and how something that seemed forever innocuous can actually be quite dangerous.
I realised today that there is something we as a society seem to accept wholly and fully that could just be a big part of the rape culture problem.
Picture a big, dramatic love scene between a romantic heroine and the man of the hour. How does the first kiss usually go? Most of the time, there is something “spontaneous” about the kiss; one of them, usually the guy, just goes for it, grabs the other, usually the girl, and plants a kiss on their startled mouth.
But guys… He never asks her if she wants to be kissed. He doesn’t ask because he assumes that, because she is looking at him a certain way and acting a certain way, she is asking for it.
Doesn’t that ring a large, loud, dangerous bell?
Thankfully the solution is simple. All that needs to happen from now on is that the guy looks at the girl and asks her: “Can I kiss you?” Then, after she has stated her consent, he can grab her almost as spontaneously as before and kiss her however way to Sunday. And I also hope that regularly enough, the girl will say no, and the guy will step back, completely confused of course, but respectful of her wishes.