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An Artist’s Life And An Artist’s Art: How Coherent Should They Be?

I wasn’t very good with titles back in 2008, and this post is solid proof of the lack of title-writing skills.  The reflection though is still something that I constantly think about: the ever-present dichotomy the work of some artists and their personal lives.  And in this case, think of “artist” in the broad sense of the word.

This reflection is especially weighing on my mind these days as I work my way through a detailed outline for the third volume of Spirit Within Club.  Is the message I am trying to convey in this series undermined by the choices that I am making in my own life?  Thankfully, I don’t seem to have obvious dichotomies, such as an artist portraying women as sex objects who back up organisations working to, say, empower young women.  But of course, there are less obvious dichotomies that litter my life.  Sometimes I ask myself: how, then, do I dare write a book for impressionable young children on a topic as important as leading a life of service?

This was one of the major questions that delayed the writing of the second volume of the series—that is, until I had a conversation with a very wise individual who pointed out that approaching the plotline itself as a learning process and not proposing formulaic solutions, but rather, focusing on the process of consulting about an issue, studying various documents on the matter, acting on any decision that is taken, and then reflecting on how well this action effected a change on the issue.

Because, in a way, if we expect the arts to be perfect, then their creator should be perfect as well—and that is an impossibility.  Yet again, it implies that our consumption of media needs to be an open yet aware one, in which we question things that are presented to us.

In light of that, I will definitely be revising the wording used in the series to ensure that I am not presenting anything as THE solution to a problem, but rather to emphasize the process that the characters are going through.  I’m sure that, in the future, I will learn more about writing fiction in a way that triggers reflections rather than imposes formulas.  Until then, I take solace in the fact that parents will hopefully reading right along with their children, and will point out to them (and maybe even email me?  Please?) the dichotomies and contradictions I have unwillingly introduced between my life and my art.

{ Sahar’s Blog is all about being in a constant state of learning.  So it only made sense for me to go back to all my previous posts and see how my thoughts on certain topics have changed over the last nine years.  In this new, ongoing series of posts, I’ll be rereading some of my older posts and reflecting on the same topic in light of what I’ve learned since then.  It’s going to be very interesting to see how things have changed! }

Putting Justice Back at the Centre of the Legal System: the Case of Kesha and Dr. Luke

On Friday 19 February 2016, a judge in New York ruled that Kesha could not cancel her six album contract with Sony. From what I understand, Kesha wants to break all ties with Sony, where she would continue to have some form of contact with Dr. Luke, the producer she said drugged her, raped her, and emotionally abused her to keep her pliable. This is why she hasn’t accepted Sony’s option to work with another producer—she wants out of an environment in which she doesn’t feel safe.

Lena Dunham explained this situation with a very relatable metaphor: “Imagine someone really hurt you, physically and emotionally. Scared you and abused you, threatened your family. The judge says that you don’t have to see them again, BUT they still own your house. So they can decide when to turn the heat on and off, whether they’ll pay the telephone bill or fix the roof when it leaks. After everything you’ve been through, do you feel safe living in that house? Do you trust them to protect you?”

There are a lot of posts online related to this case about its legal ramifications, about the implications for future contract negotiations, about how to deal with false accusations, etc. But I have yet to find an article about the most important aspect of this entire situation: justice. So here is my attempt to put that vital concept back at the heart of the conversation.

Justice at a Personal Level

What is the truth of what happened between Kesha and Dr. Luke? How can we determine said truth, when there is no proof other than words? There might be no way of being able to do so, which means we might be stuck in a she-said, he-said situation, a seemingly unsolvable dilemma.

But what if we took a step back?

Contextual Justice In This Situation

Taking a step back reminds us that nothing happens in a vacuum. Whatever happens between two people happens within a larger context. The context within which this situation between Kesha and Dr. Luke is happening includes the following:

  1. The legal system requires physical proof that a crime was committed, and there is a lack of physical proof that Kesha was drugged, raped, and emotionally abused.
  2. There have been cases of women falsely accusing men of rape, in which case the falsely accused man’s life was ruined.
  3. The media loves a good drama between two individuals, such as accusation of abuse in the entertainment business (hello, Chris Brown and Rihanna.)
  4. It is the responsibility of the community and of the institutions governing it to protect vulnerable individuals.

How are These Concerns being Currently Addressed?

So maybe we can never find out what really happened between Kesha and Dr. Luke. But taking a step back to embrace the context of the situation helps us see that there are other things that can be done in the name of justice and how, by the same token, there are things we are currently doing that are unjust.

  1. There might not be any physical proof anymore, but has there been any form of investigation? I have not yet seen any sign of an investigation into the allegations. So Kesha’s statement seems to remain ignored for lack of physical proof.
  2. It seems that we are leaning towards protecting Dr. Luke in case Kesha is lying. The way media reports are formulated seem to imply that Kesha is questionable while Dr. Luke is not.
  3. There isn’t much about the case being covered in the media other than the focus on the contract between Sony and Kesha where, again, Kesha is being painted as acting solely for personal financial gain.
  4. Contractually, Kesha has to work relatively near Dr. Luke. So we are letting a potentially vulnerable person remain close to the potentially aggressive person.

What Does the Way we are Currently Addressing these Concerns Say/Imply About Us?

This is not looking good, guys. Even if we don’t know what happened, there are things in the list below that I find difficult to accept that we are, as a society, letting happen.

  1. An allegation of rape is only valid if there is physical proof. There is no physical proof, and so either there is no investigation, or no one is paying attention to whatever investigation might be going on.
  2. We are OK with Kesha being in danger even if it turns out that she is telling the truth, because we don’t want Dr. Luke to be falsely accused. This is reinforced by the fact that we seem OK with protecting Dr. Luke even if it means that Kesha might be falsely accused of lying (i.e. she is telling the truth).
  3. Other than the fight over the contract, nothing much about this case is deemed worthy to be covered by the media.
  4. We are willing to put a vulnerable person at risk.

What Are We Ignoring?

The list above seems to have been made ignoring a slew of information such as:

  1. How often is there physical proof in cases of rape? And how often, even with physical proof, is a woman’s accusation ignored?
  2. As visualised in a very informative infographic posted by Demi Lovato (featured at the end of this post), not many rape allegations end up being false.
  3. Our focus is about financial justice only, at the cost of human justice.
  4. What if Kesha is telling the truth? What if Dr. Luke is lying?

The Big Question of the Moment

It seems to me that we are focused on a very small portion of the issue, and, because of various biases (women lie about being raped; money is the most important thing) we end up, as a species, doing something that no other species on this planet does.

You see, animals usually protect their young ones for the sake of the perpetuation of their species. Kesha is young and has contributed a lot to pop culture already; she is now contributing to the all-important conversation about gender. And yet, we are not moving in to protect her.

I’m not implying that I’m 100% certain she is telling the truth. I am in no position to comment on that. But fact is that there is at least a 50% chance that she is a potential victim. And yet, what is written about this situation and the actions that have been taken seem to imply that she is 99% guilty.

This begs the question: why we are not protecting a potential victim? Do we have to be 100% sure that she has been raped to protect her?

Justice implies that we have to assume someone is innocent until proven guilty. We are so concerned that Dr. Luke will be falsely accused that we have created a non-existent dichotomy: protecting Kesha means accepting that Dr. Luke is guilty. And yet, we are OK with not protecting Kesha, which means that we are accepting that she is guilty of lying.

What happened to innocent until proven guilty when it comes to Kesha’s potential lie, then?

And… What if she’s telling the truth?

If a child claims to be in danger, protective services immediately react, despite the fact that a child is not considered mature enough to make life decisions and that there have been a number of false claims. But just in case this child, a vulnerable member of society, is in actual danger, we immediately react.

If Kesha is telling the truth… If she was drugged and raped and emotionally abused for ten years… If she developed an eating disorder because of this situation… If this situation caused her to get to such a bad place she needed rehab… Knowing that women are objectified constantly all around us… Knowing the rate of rape in general and in the entertainment business… Knowing that the number of false accusations is minute compared to the number of true accusations that are dismissed…

Can we afford, as a society, to dismiss out of hand what Kesha is claiming happened?

That we are focusing on preserving the sanctity of a contract “typical of the industry” over the break of the sanctity of a trusting relationship between a producer and an artist, rather than rethinking of what is “typical of the industry” … What does this say about us?

What does it say when no one is trying to determine the truth, or that, at the very least, we do not seem concerned with it?

What does it say that we are not willing to accept that there is a 50% chance that Kesha is being truthful and come up with a way for her to continue working?

It says that we have a big, big, BIG mess to clean up.

And let’s say it turns out Kesha is lying. I would be so proud of my human family if it had taken the approach to protect her even more because someone who lies about this has vulnerabilities as well.

We do not need to protect Kesha at Dr. Luke’s expense, but we do not need to protect Dr. Luke at Kesha’s expense.

They are both innocent until proven guilty in both cases.  Dr. Luke is innocent of raping Kesha until proven guilty; Kesha is innocent of lying until proven guilty. We have to break away from a two dimensional view of a complex situation and figure out another way of approaching it.

Let’s say it comes out that Kesha lied…

But what if she didn’t?

There are a lot more good men that bad ones, so man bashing won’t help and needs to stop.

There are more women telling the truth than lying about being raped, so woman bashing isn’t helping either and needs to stop.

We have to stop being children obsessed with pointing fingers and issuing one dimensional sentences; we need to become adults capable of complex thinking and reasoning.

 

Sahar's Blog 2016 03 15 Putting Justice Back at the Centre of the Legal System the Case of Kesha and Dr. LukeAs posted on Demi Lovato’s Instagram account: “As most people know, I tend to get fired up about the things I believe in, and although my heart and intentions are always in the right place, unfortunately sometimes my passion gets the best of me and causes me to say things that I probably shouldn’t say. And when doing so it takes away from the real reason I am speaking up in the first place. Our focus should be on the topic of victims of sexual and physical abuse being afraid to come forward with their stories. They’re more likely to face retaliation and harassment than to see justice being served. Especially women. It baffles me that when it comes to serious issues like equality and abuse, too often women are not taken as seriously as men. All I want to see is women coming together and actually making a difference. A real change and shift in society. Everyone has their own way of giving support to others , and at the end of the day, helping victims is all that matters. Ultimately, the message I want people to hear is it’s okay to come forward with your abuse and if you do decide to take action, you are not alone.”

First published on Sahar’s Blog on 15 March 2016

Respecting Human Dignity While Working to Eliminate Rape

Till It Happens To You” is Lady Gaga’s powerful new song which she co-wrote for use in the documentary on campus rape in the United States called “The Hunting Ground.” The numbers make it clear that drastic action is needed to raise the kind of men who would never degrade themselves to subjecting someone to such a horrifying ordeal.

It is so important to have celebrities support such important causes, and very inspiring to have them use their art for this purpose. However, their status makes it all the more important that they deal with these causes with care and attention. While I found nothing wrong with the song itself, that millions are watching the associated video clip is of great concern.

Art is a powerful tool that can bring to our collective attention topics of societal importance. If we are to set ourselves on the long path of figuring out how to eliminate campus rape, we have to remain sensitive to this cause. Because once we stop having negative, gut-driven reactions to the horrors related to it, an automatic act of self-preservation we all have, our drive will be negatively affected.

Unfortunately, a couple my friends have been sexually assaulted, some of them on campus. Because the others in the group weren’t desensitized, we were able to cry with them and feel a small part of their pain. We felt dirty just like they did; we went through a phase during which we would take as many showers as our friends did; some of us couldn’t stop cleaning, mimicking to a limited extent what our friend was going through. All of my friends agreed that the best support they have had was from friends so horrified that their reactions made them feel validated in their pain. They didn’t feel alone because we cried with them and shivered with them and felt gross just like they did. One of them mentioned that when she realised one of her friend’s had picked up her habit of cleaning her hands a couple of times an hour, she felt completely and absolutely loved.

So on the one hand, the conversation has to be honest and has to lead to action. We have to feel some of the horror of what those who are raped are going through to keep us going on this path because it’s going to take time to solve. But on the other hand, being desensitized by the sensational aspects of rape narrows the trauma to a moment, narrowing the scope of what we will think of doing to help.

To completely get rid of a culture in which rape happens, we have to change the root cause of why this happens in the first place: a lack of respect for human dignity. How does seeing rape scenes like the ones in the video clip to Lady Gag’s song—or, for that matter, or reading graphic descriptions of rape scenes in books—help increase our appreciation for human dignity? It doesn’t, for the simple reason that we become desensitized out of sheer self-preservation. What if instead, the video had focused only on human dignity?

Which brings me to one of the immediate and powerful ways we can all contribute to this: by consciously respecting and appreciating human dignity through our thoughts, our words, our actions, and our social media posts. Another immediate way is by acting dignified by respecting our own bodies. By showing respect to ourselves and others, we are immediately contributing to the environment in which this important conversation will occur; and since change in a society is intimately related to changes in the individuals living in this society, no doubt one will feed into the other.

First published on Sahar’s Blog on 10 October 2015.

Blog Review: Fifteen Great Blogs Round-Up (Part I of III)

Since starting the Blog Review feature back in August, I have had the pleasure of discovering and/or reviewing 15 blogs. I was expecting to have to go through one of my biggest difficulties when reviewing books or music: having to find something nice to say about something that really didn’t impress me. Thankfully this wasn’t the case, not even once. I can even say that because I enjoyed these blogs so much, I ended up spending a lot more time on each review than I had initially planned to, since I was, erm, “researching”.

::coughsIwastotallyjustsurfingcoughs::

Anyhow! To ring in 2016, I thought to do a little round-up of all these reviews, so that anyone who has made the resolution to read more blogs this year will have an easy time scratching that off their list. So here are the first five of fifteen blogs reviewed here on Sahar’s Blog, in no particular order (except the first one. It’s my sister’s blog. What? I’m proud.)

Blog review: Elle is for Love

Elle is for Love on Sahar's ReviewsElle is for Love is, indeed, a labor of love, and I have been watching Sépideh work hard on putting together a blog that would combine her passions: fashion, beauty, health, and making the world a better place.

… How many blogs look at using fashion and beauty not as a way to enhance oneself, but rather, to ready oneself to enhance the community?  What a way to start a blog review feature!

… It’s not easy putting yourself out there, especially in a hypercritical world. I am proud of my sister for having the courage to not just put herself out there, but being authentic and true to herself, even if it means straying away from mainstream fashion and beauty blogs, the ultimate reason why everyone should give Elle is for Love a try.

Blog review: Kate in the Classroom

kate in the classroom on Sahar's Reviews… In kate in the classroom, teacher-to-be Kate is all about style within the unique context of the career she is pursuing—yes, education.  You might already be able to tell why I enjoyed writing this blog review!

… Kate’s endeavor is still a relatively new one—she has only been blogging since January of this year. But the space she has created since then as well as the content she has been generating make this blog well worth keeping an eye on.

Blog Review: Lovely & Literary

Sahar's Reviews 2015 09 04 Blog Review Lovely and LiteraryIt could be argued that I love this blog because it has to do with one of my biggest passions, writing. It could also be argued that I love it because it discusses another one of my passions: living a spiritual life and contributing to the development of the community. But these are only partially why I love this blog.

… The blog is only a couple of months old, but it has already racked up quite a few posts on books (both reading and writing them), lifestyle, and arts and culture. Aleah’s reading list has also been growing slowly but steadily—and these are not the lightest of books! If you are looking for something both simple yet complex, elegant, thoughtful, and just plain pretty, Lovely & Literary might just be for you—and don’t forget to take a look at Aleah’s delightful collection of pictures on Instagram. For regular updates on her blog, follow her on Facebook or Twitter.

Blog Review: Always, S

Reviews 2015 12 18 Blog Review Always SCollege is one of Savannah’s biggest categories and is filled with great posts that touch upon all kinds of aspects of life in college. The one that stood out the most to me was “10 College Questions + Advice for Freshmen (answered by a professor!)” which is filled with great advice you need to read, not just for a great couple of years in college but also for a great high school experience and, really, a great life experience.

This blog has a lot of potential to grow into something even better and potentially a lot bigger as well. And if it turns out that you really like Savannah’s style, you can also find her on Pinterest, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

Blog Review: Navy Striped Peonies

Reviews 2015 12 11 Blog Review Navy Striped Peonies… The “Outfits” page is replete with ideas of how to pair items that just about anyone can afford, making it a potential look book of sorts rather than a source of I-don’t-have-this-and-can’t-afford-it depression. And on the “Shop” page, you will find out where she purchased the various items mentions throughout her blog.

Another handy feature is the “Popular Posts” widget on the right hand toolbar. There are quite a few fun posts features there, such as a gift guide for both him and her as well as a post dedicated to Paulina’s pretty sticker collection. This blog is a fun, fresh breath of air and well worth a follow. You can also find Paulina on Pinterest, Bloglovin, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

Header image courtesy of Death to Stock.